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Welcome to Life Coaching by Feltes

Helping gay men free themselves from Church shame

so they can live lives filled with

Joy

Gratitude

and Authenticity

 
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Come as you are.

I'm so glad you found my page! If you're reading this, know that you are welcome here. More importantly, know that you are welcome here not in spite of who you are, but because of it. 

My primary focus is helping gay men free themselves from Church shame.

Sounds out of reach? I get it. As a creative and an out, gay man, I understand how challenging and oftentimes scary it can feel to lead an authentic life. Vulnerability takes courage, and it’s absolutely necessary to access your pure joy. 

 

About Me

At the age of 25, I looked pretty happy. I had a Master of Arts in Educational Leadership, a full time job as a high school Spanish and Theatre teacher, owned a house in the suburbs of Chicago, and was engaged to a woman I was with for five years. To someone looking in from the outside, I really did look happy, only much of it was a facade. 

 

At this point, I met someone who made me question my whole belief system, and during that struggle, I realized I was living a double life. I realized I had preconceived ideas that being gay was shameful, but in that moment, I realized what was actually wrong was living an inauthentic life. Within 24 hours of meeting this man, I ended the relationship with my fiancée and came out of the closet. 

Coming out was the first of many life changes that came to me, much like the ripples in a pond from a pebble. The courage from coming out nudged me to pursue my dream of being an actor, and it sat next to me in my car as I drove to Los Angeles to continue that dream. 

Fast forward to today - I've built a life for myself with my dog Cadence, about twenty houseplants, and my own LA chosen family. I am able to pursue my dreams while helping others pursue theirs. Being a Life Coach fulfills and heals me in a way I haven't felt since I was a teacher. Only now, I get to do it from a place of pure joy and authenticity. 

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"Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change."

Brené Brown

Toolbox

Mindset Mastery

Ever feel like you get in your own way? Do your negative thoughts keep you from growing? Are you your biggest critic instead of your biggest cheerleader? Your thoughts matter. Your beliefs matter. Not only that, but they affect your feelings and emotions. Together, we can develop: an awareness of your negative thoughts, the ability to reframe them and chose more positive and empowering thoughts, and a practice of processes and behaviors that help you cope with every day situations.

Goal Setting

For some reason, many people think of the Boogie Man when they hear the words "Goal Setting," but in reality, oftentimes the most efficient way of growing and even tracking your growth is by setting goals. Together, we can demystify the goal setting process, come up with actionable steps, and track your growth.

Mindfullness

All we have is the here and now. The past is behind us, and the future has yet to come. How much time do you spend regretting the past or worrying about the future? Together, we can create a personalize routine to help train your mind (and your heart) to stay in the present moment. Some options include but are not limited to journaling, gratitude practice, and journaling. 

 
 

WHAT PEOPLE SAY

"Eric helped me know my self worth and what I deserve, showing me what I’m capable of and what I can accomplish while exploring what I want my future to look like. Most of all, he's given me the confidence to go after what I want in life."

Chase R.

"During each session with Eric, I feel more like myself. I’ve become less fearful in relationships and career. For the first time in a long time, I don’t feel alone. Eric would ask layered questions that would allow me to do the work necessary to change behaviors and patterns, and gear me towards a higher state of mind. If you are going through something and do not have anyone to talk to, please reach out to Eric. I promise your life will change in a positive and impactful way! "

Derek P.

"At 38, I'm finally changing my relationship to money. But WOW! After only three sessions with Eric, I already see changes. This may not be a big deal to y'all, but I haven't spent a dime in the last four days, thanks to my new budgeting method Eric taught me! If you are seeing to reframe your thoughts on money, consider working with Eric!" 

Michael S.

"Working with Eric was beyond what I expected from a life coach. We were able to easily discuss topics of insecurity in my life and come up with a step-by-step action plan to make small changes each day. What I appreciated most was that our sessions were conversational, and I always felt more strength to pursue positive change in my life at the end of each meeting. I'm looking forward to continuing my personal growth journey with Eric."

Brandon H.

 
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