ABOUT ERIC
"Queerness is not a burden to tolerate. It is a gift to celebrate."
- Eric Feltes
Eric Feltes grew up in conservative evangelical culture, a world that told him his desires were dangerous and his identity was incompatible with love, belonging, or God. Coming out in his mid-twenties didn't end the shame. It just made it louder.
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For years, Eric struggled with overthinking during intimacy and a feeling a pressure to perform. He was left feeling frustrated and alone.
That journey became the foundation for everything he does today. He's not sharing it as a distant success story — he's sharing it because it's the same journey his clients are on when they first reach out to him
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Gay Positioning System
G.P.S.
Every journey starts with
knowing where you are.
All of Eric's work follows the same three-part framework. Not as a straight line — but as a map. One that accounts for the roadblocks, the detours, and the beliefs that have kept you circling the same ground.
STARTING POINT
Where You Are Now
Sex and intimacy may feel tense, pressured, or unpredictable.
You might find yourself overthinking in the moment, worrying about getting or staying hard, or feeling disconnected from your body and your partner.
Instead of enjoying the experience, you’re stuck managing anxiety, self-doubt, or frustration.
IN THE WAY
The Roadblocks
Pressure, shame, past experiences, and negative thought patterns can quietly shape how you show up in intimacy.
Avoidance, comparison, and fear of “failing” can make it harder to relax, stay present, and feel confident.
Over time, this can impact not just sex — but your self-esteem, relationships, and sense of connection.
DESTINATION
Where You Want To Be
Sex and intimacy that feel relaxed, confident, and genuinely enjoyable.
Being able to stay present in your body instead of trapped in your head.
Desire without guilt.
Connection without fear.
The freedom to trust yourself and fully experience pleasure again.
The work begins with knowing where you're starting from.
THE FRAMEWORK
Three keys to
integrated
intimacy.
"Queerness is not a burden to tolerate. It is a gift to celebrate."
Everything in Eric's 8-week program is built around three interconnected principles. Not as concepts to understand — but as skills to practice, embody, and carry into every relationship, encounter, and moment of desire.
1
Consent
MORE SELF-TRUST, LESS GUILT
2
Embodiment
MORE PLEASURE,
LESS OVERTHINKING
3
Expression
MORE HONESTY,
LESS HIDING
You'll learn to slow down and recognize your internal yes and no — not the one you perform, but the one that's actually true. You'll release guilt around your desires and honor your limits without apology.
THE RESULT
Choosing intimacy from alignment, not pressure. Feeling grounded, clear, and at peace with what you want.
Eric coaches you in body-based tools that calm your nervous system, reduce performance anxiety, and build your capacity to stay present during intimacy — instead of watching yourself from the outside.
THE RESULT
Feeling intimacy as it's happening, your pleasure, your desire, your limits — rather than judging it from a distance.
You'll build the skills to communicate your desires, boundaries, and needs clearly and directly — without shame, without overcompensating, and without fearing that saying what you want will cost you the connection.
THE RESULT
Intimacy where you're fully seen and understood, instead of misunderstood, disconnected, or regretful.
These aren't three separate modules. They're three dimensions of the same thing. Real intimacy requires all three — and most gay men have never had the chance to develop any of them without shame getting in the way.
CLIENT STORIES
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