Healing from religious harm isn’t about forgetting your past; it’s about reclaiming your power.

 

Feeling all that junk is completely normal, but I want you to know that change is achievable. You don’t have to stay stuck in this place, no matter how convincing that voice inside your head sounds.

 

There is a way to break free from these feelings and your current state, create the connections you crave, and live a joy-filled life, as and because of who you are. You are not alone. In fact, this book is for you if…

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• You’re reading it on the floor of your closet with a flashlight, out of fear that someone may find out who you really are.

• You came out of the closet, thinking that your life would be easy and fulfilled, only to be sorely disappointed.

• You know being a part of the queer community is okay in your head, but you can’t shake the deep-seated fear that you’re wrong.

• You feel you’re “too gay” for Christians, yet “too Christian” for the queer community.

• You left religion, but the shame from religion hasn’t left you. 

• You left religion, and you miss it deeply.

• You have no idea how to be queer and Christian.

• You have no idea how to be queer, period. 

• You squirm when you read the word “queer” or even the word “gay.”

• You’ve tried therapy, self-help, or spirituality, but you still don’t feel quite right. 

•  You feel like “an alien trapped in a human body,” as one of my clients once put it so painfully accurately. 

• You’re curious (and you are welcome here).

• You’re an ally (and you are welcome here, too).